Wednesday, May 13

Why straight men don't hang out with gay men.

Its just uncomfortable because we may feel as if they're checking us out. Its happened to me. My ex girlfriend was friends with a gay guy and even though he knew we were in love he still made passes at me. Both were openly gay and flaunted it which kindof bothers me personally. Its kindof the same reason why its hard for a straight man to be friends with a good looking woman. If ther's an attraction there its really hard to get it out of our minds. Maybe its just me though.

13 comments:

  1. not just you. it is civilization. you are cilivized. = )
    people best keep their sexual activities to themselves and relate on a non-sexual basis unless the signals are very clear from both parties.

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  2. i went to a all guy high school and in my class that i know of there were 2 guys who were gay. so out of about 200 in my class 2 were we knew were gay, and we were actually cool with them. i fact the 2 that were gay didnt like each other and werent friends with one another, so they were friends with us guys who were straight. and one of the gay guys ran for asb president and he won. we might have just been unusual that we were comfortable hanging out with a gay guys

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  3. For some guys, they're just homophobes. I ask one of my guyfriends what if yyour best friend told u he was gay all of a sudden? He responded w/.. I would still be his friend, but be very distant from him. Its just a stereotypical fear that gay men will be touchy towards anyone. This might be one reason str8 men do not hang out w/gay men, but I'm sure this is not for every man out there.

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  4. my boyfriend is straigh and his best friend is gay. We enjoy hanging around together, he takes his boyfriend to dance and we tag along with them like normal people. But many other people are just homophobes, straight males think that if they hang around a gay male, it will automaticlly transformed them gay too.

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  5. It all depends on the individual's selfesteem...all those people that you guys refer to as "homophobes" simply have a very low selfesteem and that's why they respond the way they do. My best friend's cousin recently annouced he was gay and we both still hang out with him and even have join him on a couple of occassions to gay bars and clubs.

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  6. I think that a lot of guys are going to said the same thing if he was my friend it cool but and if he hasnt try anything.....but i do think its going to be in back of their heads is he checking me out is he going to try to do something to me??? personaly as a female if i can trust "my friend" person i dont care what gender they claim to be. As long as they are there when i need them in the good times and in the bad times that is all that i want from friend guy or straight. =)

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  7. this weekend i went to a party with a bunch of ppl from high school including three gay guys. all are openly gay but one of them is more flamboyant about it. i noticed that all of my straight guy friends didnt have a problem talking to the two guys who were less obvious about their sexuallity and completely stood away from the other guy. i thought it was interesting to see that they felt more comfortable with the levels of openess

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  8. I think men that are straight have a perception that all gay men after them. I think they are just homophobic!

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  9. I agree with chucky....Straight men have to look macho, so they dont want to hang out with gay men

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  10. I think this is an interesting comment, Robert84. I personally think it all comes down to how secure you are about yourself. Check out the Kinsey Reports by Alfred Kinsey. It's quite interesting.

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  11. I do see that there is a divide between gay and straight men. At times I see a lot of straight men that are threatened by gay men because it's a threat to their masculinity.

    I agree with mr. ambulance driver, it does all come down to how secure you are about your self.

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  12. I have a lot of straight guy friends who hang out with my gay friends. The guys that are very comfortable with their sexually have no problem with socializing with homosexuals. Ironically, the guys that have come out recently were very homophobic before, just fyi. As far as guys who hit on the straight boys,ya that is awkward but just like it would be if a very unattractive woman to openly hit on a man, if there is no sexual attraction, then the interacton would be very uncomfortable. Gay guys usually do not hit on other men that are straight, especially if their best girlfriend is dating him. If any guy has had a bad experience with a gay guy, do not generalize

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  13. In order to be a straight man and be comfortable with hanging out with a gay man, you must first be confident in your own sexual orientation and understand that not everyone wants you. Once you master that, then you'll be fine!!

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