Marriage is a business! The sooner we realize that the better we will be. We have to walk into the business with guns blazing, all our documents in order, we need lawyers, elders, faith, and hard work to make the merger of two families successful. Marriage being an opportunity for two families to merge and become more powerful in the civilization, creating better opportunities for survival and the ultimate take over of the world(hauummmmmhaaaahhahah [diabolical laugh]) But seriously we all just want a powerful army(family); there's safety in numbers. Americans need to wake up and realize that love is transferable. It can go from one person to the next, here today and gone tomorrow, overwhelming now, but all you need forever. Love is simply to fickle to be the absolute reason to marry. It's all about money. LMAO!!!!!!
Western cultures are too fixated on love. They teach it to their young from birth to adulthood. As they see it, without love, you're nothing. So what do they do? They go out looking for it!! Wondering why everyone they meet is either Mr. Wrong, Mrs. Wrong...whatever floats their boat. Sure there's pleasure in having the freedom to select the mate of your liking. But for those in Eastern Cultures who know for a fact that two people compliment each other in one way or another...how can you go wrong?
I think i still believes in falling in love and getting married with the person ones chooses to get married. I cant imagen marring to some complate stranger and falling in love with the person. I have heard that arranged marriages work but i have never really seen it with my two eyes. So in that sence thats is scary but them again like kid_play_21 mention how do we know how is Mr. or Mrs. right or for each other we dont and how do we know that marring the person we are falling in love is going to be the right one?? there is alot about marriages that is yet to be solve but is someone knows the answer let me know..lol...
Marriage is a scary thing for me. The thought of spend the rest of your life with the same person really freaks me out. Currently, i am living with my boyfreind and everyday we will fight over little time. I just cant see myself getting marry......Because it seem to me like i am already marry to my boyfriend.
It takes more than just love for a marriage to last. Its all about compromising and accepting each other. And yes, I understand why people say its also a business transaction. Pay less taxes & combine resources. And live the "American Dream"
Marriage is a combination of both "falling in love" and a business. You need to be able to have your cards in order for it to properly function but all business and no play will leave you feeling dull. I have a living partner and were constantly having conversations about where we want to go how to spend the money who pays what etc etc it essential comes down to a business arrangement but I wouldn't want to invest in a business that wasn't founded on love. As in the real world you wouldn't invest in something you didn't feel was going to pay off. So I think in Marriage both aspects are important for it to successfully work.
Both traditions are a mutual agreement. Okay I guess it is a "Business." If both persons are low class with not much income at all, their marriage would be a mutual agreement as money is not going to be a big deal. In eastern tradition, it is more of a SHARED wealth. Most couples would agree to share costs. Whatever the husband makes, he gives to the wife to hold and keep track of. If the woman works for someone as a housewife or selling food, her earnings also contribute. In western tradition, I understand it can go both ways. When it comes to marriage in the Eastern tradition, the men is most likely to cover all costs of the wedding and the woman would live with their husbands family. Either share wealth (eastern) or they are independent with their money (western)--thats why there are prenupts/prenuptial agreements in US. How we blend the two cultures is based on a verbal contract, coming to a decision together. The decision of doing things the old way (culture)or the new generation, wanting to fall in love,then marrying.
the funny thing is that stats are showing that over half of "free will" or western culture marriages are failing. Maybe, in a sense, we are truly not falling in love before WE get married. AS far as arrange marriages, I think those couple only last because they are doing for someone else rather than themselves. So if they fail, not only do they fail themselves but their families(the ones who arrange the arrangement).
I once had a friend who was in an arranged marriage. Once I asked each of them how they felt about their parents deciding who they would spend their life with. The answer was simple, yet thought provoking; "Why would our parents want us to be unhappy the rest of our lives?" Both he and his wife have been very happy together.
I'm going to call up my parents right now and tell them why didn't they arrange a marriage for me. (haha, just kidding)
I wouldn't like anything better but to choose the partner I want to be with for the rest of my life and have no one tell me otherwise. but, then again what if I choose a partner that could potentially end in divorce? Then it would be my fault for choosing the wrong one. OR, I could leave the fate of my marriage life in the hand of parents and choose me a suitable partner. Most of the arranged marriages have low divorce rates right?
If I was ARRANGED with my current partner now, would I still be attracted to them? Probably not, because it was the journey of getting to know my partner along the journey that attracted me to my partner.
Either way my main concern is divorce. Statistics say arranged marriages are better. Even the statistics ring truth, the real question is which one should I take?
Marriage is a business! The sooner we realize that the better we will be. We have to walk into the business with guns blazing, all our documents in order, we need lawyers, elders, faith, and hard work to make the merger of two families successful. Marriage being an opportunity for two families to merge and become more powerful in the civilization, creating better opportunities for survival and the ultimate take over of the world(hauummmmmhaaaahhahah [diabolical laugh]) But seriously we all just want a powerful army(family); there's safety in numbers.
ReplyDeleteAmericans need to wake up and realize that love is transferable. It can go from one person to the next, here today and gone tomorrow, overwhelming now, but all you need forever. Love is simply to fickle to be the absolute reason to marry. It's all about money. LMAO!!!!!!
Western cultures are too fixated on love. They teach it to their young from birth to adulthood. As they see it, without love, you're nothing. So what do they do? They go out looking for it!! Wondering why everyone they meet is either Mr. Wrong, Mrs. Wrong...whatever floats their boat. Sure there's pleasure in having the freedom to select the mate of your liking. But for those in Eastern Cultures who know for a fact that two people compliment each other in one way or another...how can you go wrong?
ReplyDeleteI think i still believes in falling in love and getting married with the person ones chooses to get married. I cant imagen marring to some complate stranger and falling in love with the person. I have heard that arranged marriages work but i have never really seen it with my two eyes. So in that sence thats is scary but them again like kid_play_21 mention how do we know how is Mr. or Mrs. right or for each other we dont and how do we know that marring the person we are falling in love is going to be the right one?? there is alot about marriages that is yet to be solve but is someone knows the answer let me know..lol...
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a scary thing for me. The thought of spend the rest of your life with the same person really freaks me out. Currently, i am living with my boyfreind and everyday we will fight over little time. I just cant see myself getting marry......Because it seem to me like i am already marry to my boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteIt takes more than just love for a marriage to last. Its all about compromising and accepting each other. And yes, I understand why people say its also a business transaction. Pay less taxes & combine resources. And live the "American Dream"
ReplyDeleteMarriage is a combination of both "falling in love" and a business. You need to be able to have your cards in order for it to properly function but all business and no play will leave you feeling dull. I have a living partner and were constantly having conversations about where we want to go how to spend the money who pays what etc etc it essential comes down to a business arrangement but I wouldn't want to invest in a business that wasn't founded on love. As in the real world you wouldn't invest in something you didn't feel was going to pay off. So I think in Marriage both aspects are important for it to successfully work.
ReplyDeleteBoth traditions are a mutual agreement. Okay I guess it is a "Business." If both persons are low class with not much income at all, their marriage would be a mutual agreement as money is not going to be a big deal. In eastern tradition, it is more of a SHARED wealth. Most couples would agree to share costs. Whatever the husband makes, he gives to the wife to hold and keep track of. If the woman works for someone as a housewife or selling food, her earnings also contribute. In western tradition, I understand it can go both ways. When it comes to marriage in the Eastern tradition, the men is most likely to cover all costs of the wedding and the woman would live with their husbands family. Either share wealth (eastern) or they are independent with their money (western)--thats why there are prenupts/prenuptial agreements in US. How we blend the two cultures is based on a verbal contract, coming to a decision together. The decision of doing things the old way (culture)or the new generation, wanting to fall in love,then marrying.
ReplyDeleteFind love, and if all else fails, maybe arrangement is not so bad
ReplyDeletethe funny thing is that stats are showing that over half of "free will" or western culture marriages are failing. Maybe, in a sense, we are truly not falling in love before WE get married. AS far as arrange marriages, I think those couple only last because they are doing for someone else rather than themselves. So if they fail, not only do they fail themselves but their families(the ones who arrange the arrangement).
ReplyDeleteI once had a friend who was in an arranged marriage. Once I asked each of them how they felt about their parents deciding who they would spend their life with. The answer was simple, yet thought provoking; "Why would our parents want us to be unhappy the rest of our lives?" Both he and his wife have been very happy together.
ReplyDeleteI'm going to call up my parents right now and tell them why didn't they arrange a marriage for me. (haha, just kidding)
ReplyDeleteI wouldn't like anything better but to choose the partner I want to be with for the rest of my life and have no one tell me otherwise. but, then again what if I choose a partner that could potentially end in divorce? Then it would be my fault for choosing the wrong one. OR, I could leave the fate of my marriage life in the hand of parents and choose me a suitable partner. Most of the arranged marriages have low divorce rates right?
If I was ARRANGED with my current partner now, would I still be attracted to them? Probably not, because it was the journey of getting to know my partner along the journey that attracted me to my partner.
Either way my main concern is divorce. Statistics say arranged marriages are better. Even the statistics ring truth, the real question is which one should I take?