Hey students. I am a 'lil disappointed not to see any reactions to the Tannen film, so I'll start. I was dating someone once who was very elusive: handsome, but elusive. My woman friend asked me what color were his eyes. I said, "He doesn't have any!" He did, but I couldn't remember ever reallly seeing them.
"They say" that the way to a man's heart is through his stomach. (Is it true, men?) Maybe there should be a saying: "The way to a woman is through her eyes," although if the connection isn't there, the woman can be annoyed by an "unrequested" gaze. But if you have her "attention" and want it to last, lOOk!
In honor of Laker mania, let's have a MVB extra credit type award: Most Valuable Blogger!
How would you award the extra credit if you don't know our real names behind the user names, or do you?
ReplyDelete"The way to a woman is through her eyes"- that's a cool saying =] can I use it?
Eye contact is over all important, and I believe food brings everyone together =]
I'm hungry now *pouts*
At the very end, your real identities can be revealed. I could figure them out now from your emails (sometimes), but I don't.
ReplyDeleteIf you, e.g., end up voting MVB, you'll be happy to reveal your real name to me.
You may use the quote, yes: like anything you cite, however, you attribute it to the author. In this case, a link with a sentence like, "As MT said, blah blah." (cite)
After watching the Tannen film, I found myself not only a girl, but also a boy. When I was young, I have girl-friends and guy-friends. When I played with my girl-friends, we talked a lot. When I played with my guy-friends, they won't treat me like a girl at all and I was not offended by that. In fact, I think playing with guys was more fun, they had lots of activity games and not boring and we fought for fun too. This was not in U.S. by the way.
ReplyDeleteAfter the Tannen film I was left with a sense of "this is what I was feeling", and it helped to understand why I react the way I do.
ReplyDeleteI learned a lot from this film.The public and private talking part grabed my interest. I talk and complaint a lot when I am with him along. When we hang out with other friends, he just cannot quite for a while.
ReplyDeleteI enjoyed the film to a tee. It was funny to see the way girls and boys communicated. This film also explained A LOT of things that I didn't understand with my boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteThese are just a couple of examples that helped me realize why he does the things he does!
- Why he liked to sit next to me at restaurant.
- Why he wouldn't pay attention to me if he was watching the Laker Game.
Important point I liked in the film:
-Women look at the question if it allows them to get farther or closer in connection.
-Men look at the question as putting one person up or down ( status).
-Women say sorry not to really mean sorry but to say sorry that it happened.
-Girls have a conversation style that shows "We are the same"
-Boys have a conversational ritual that consists of trying to top each other.
The film not only helped me understand my boyfriend's actions and what his "reasoning" was behind it all. But, it also helped me understand a lot about myself as well.
Tanen is very very right, there is a difference between gender communication. Just 'cause i don't look at my girlfriends eyes when she is talking to me does not mean i am not listening.
ReplyDeleteWho can pay attention to anything but Lakers during a Laker's game?!?!?! = )
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